The Place of Nevertheless, Part Three

 

When I was finally able to give God the go ahead to have His way in my life, I did so with fear and trepidation. I kindasorta knew what to expect because of the example of Jesus.

But I’m not Jesus!

At that point, I could not  imagine what God would do that would take my complete and total submission, bringing me to where He wanted me to be at that particular season of my life.

As I shared in Part Two, things immediately began to change. The majority of those changes were inside of me. God was doing an inside job. He needed for me to get over Beatrice and become who He had called and created me to be.

How often have you prayed for a situation or circumstance to change and it didn’t? How many times have you prayed for someone else to change and they seemed to remain the same? Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but, the change you are praying for must first occur within you. This is what the Place of Nevertheless is all about for many of us.

You see, God can’t use you/me/us in the same condition we desire to remain in.

When Jesus finally gave God that one more Nevertheless, it meant  He was ready to go to the Cross and give His life for a people who cared nothing about Him.

Now, the question is, can you do the same? Can you step out of your comfort zone and finally go into the place God has for you?

When I said yes to the the Lord and admitted I did, in fact, have one more nevertheless, it meant I was giving up the Beatrice I had lived with for, at that time, the last 51 years. I will admit, I was a little curious to see the changes He would effect within me.

However, I was reluctant to give up some of the things I had clung to during this time: fear, doubt, anger, bitterness, the list goes on. I was comfortable with this stuff. I was comfortable with the hurt and pain I had endured for so many years.

IT WAS COMFORTABLE!

I didn’t want to relinquish control over my emotions to see what God would do with me. Can I just be transparent here? It felt good to harbor the anger. I didn’t feel selfish…at all! I loved it! I had kissed the ring of Pride and Self and there was no turning back…or so I thought.

Is this topic helping you in your current condition? Would you like to move forward in life but can’t because of the things you are hoarding in your heart, mind, and, life?

Email me at email hidden; JavaScript is required and let me know how I can help. I would love to give you a PDF copy of my book, How to Get Over Yourself and Let Go of the PAST. But, you will have to request it. This book will help you get rid of some of the baggage you have been carrying for far too long.

OK, so we will continue to move forward. May God bless your journey.

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

By the way, my new, and first, novel, The Baby Chronicles – Where You Were Before You Were, will be released by Morgan James Publishing on March 7, 2017, To get a personalized copy before then, please go to The Baby Chronicles webpage, tell me how you want your copy personalized, and order today!

Let Go of the PAST and Be Thankful

Give Thanks

Oftentimes, we look at our PAST, good and bad, and think to ourselves that we are glad..

that thing,

those trials and tribulations,

those tests

are over.

Today, I would like to present a different perspective to you.

 

Thanksgiving 2014

  1. If you experienced a childhood in which you were mistreated, rejected, neglected, discouraged, etc., do this today. Thank God that you made it through the treatment and that He has taught you not to treat anyone else in this manner.
  2. If you have lost a loved one through death, or divorce, or relationship issues, do this. Thank God for the time you were allowed to spend with that person and the memories, good and bad, you shared. Thank God for the growth you experienced, the knowledge or education you received that will enable you to know what’s right moving forward.
  3. If you have lost a job due to forced reduction or downsizing, thank God for the experience you accrued that you can use either in your next position or in your own business.

Many times, we look at letting go of the PAST as a bad thing with connotations of things being wrong about our coming out. But, that’s not always the case.

Letting Go of the PAST doesn’t mean you didn’t live it. It means… 

you made it through,

you survived,

you thrived in spite of it all!

Our PAST can be a catalyst for improving our outlook and perspectives in life… that is, if we will allow it to be this. PAST does not always mean something is bad. It can also mean that some things need to change.

Today and throughout this season of Thanksgiving, think on those things you have experienced and endured and find that Something you can be thankful for from the experience.

Be abundantly blessed! Happy Thanksgiving! #GodIsFaithful

Snoopy Thanksgiving

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Let Go of the PAST and Embrace 2015…

embrace your future

In approximately 44 days, we will enter 2015.

Some of us will enter it with a sigh of relief: We made it!

Others will kick in the gate of the new season because we have been waiting for the change, the newness, so we could go forth and do those great things we know we are capable of doing.

Unfortunately, some others dread 2015. After all, 2014, 13, 12, 11… have all not been the way we wanted, so why should we think 2015 will be any different?

WRONG!!!!

2015 will offer new opportunities for you, for your family, for your business/ministry.

Do you want those opportunities?

Do you desire to see new, good, better things happening in your life?

WELL?!?! Do You!?!?????

Are you prepared to do what it takes to Let Go of the PAST and embrace the 2015 you want????

Do these three things to ensure you see the 2015 you desire.

  1. Write your vision for 2015 and make it plain so that as you consider your vision, you can run with it. If you do not have a vision, your 2015 is already doomed before it begins. Write your vision out in detail! Be very specific.
  2. Speak positively about your 2015. The life and death of an exceptional 2015 is in the power of your tongue. You create it by the way you speak about it. There are many negatives in life, but what comes out of your mouth about 2015 has the power to create what you want it to be. Take ownership now!
  3. Consider what is inside of you. Every seed of greatness you need to plant in 2015 is already inside of you. You were created, born to do what 2015 is being ushered into your life to do. Everything you want to accomplish is already inside of you. Now, RUN with it!

Much has happened in your life over the PAST 5 to 7 years. Some good, some middle-of-the-road, some not so good. Now is the time to move forward as never before!

2015 is your year!

Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.

 

Let go of the PAST situations, circumstances, trials, and tribulations you tend to ruminate about throughout your days.

Create new pictures in your mind to focus on.

Create new conversations in your head to lead you to the great things you want to experience.

Create new relationships that will propel you forward.

Create the 2015 you want and Rock and Roll with it!

Do you lack “Freedom to Move Forward”? 

February 6 and 7, 2015 will Rock your 2015! Register here.

The Drill Sergeant of Life looks forward to helping you Let Go of the PAST so you can embrace the awesome future in front of you. If this blog post resonates with you, please share. I look forward to your comments.

God is Faithful!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

 

Letting Go of the PAST – The Freedom of Forgiveness

Forgive and change the future Letting Go of the PAST and Forgiving provides us with elements of Freedom we should desire to experience on a daily basis!

After all, Letting Go of the PAST is not so much about the other person as it is about you! One of the things we need to recognize when we go through something that brings trauma into our lives is that we (our hearts, minds, and souls) become bruised from the intrusion of the transgression.

But, if we will allow ourselves, give ourselves permission to forgive, we will be able to experience the freedom of forgiveness in a new way!

Today, I invite you to revisit one of my previous posts about this subject. Click here.

Think about this:

  1. How many people do you know, personally or publicly, who seem to have so much baggage from the PAST in their lives, they find it hard to move forward?
  2. Do you notice in their conversation that they seem to say the same things over and over? Or,
  3. Every conversation seems to turn to them no matter how much work the person has to do to get the topic back on themselves.

My friend, this person needs help!

He or she is so emotionally bruised, they don’t know what to do. He or she thinks that by just continually talking about the subject, they are healing themselves.

That is simply not true!

Until this person can forgive, he or she can never walk in the freedom God created for him or her.

Do this with/for your friend:

  • Be honest with him or her. Don’t allow the person to walk in deception anymore. Even if the honesty will cause a breach in your relationship with the person.
  • Be honest with yourself. Has the PAST pain from the person become toxic in your life?
  • Help the person find some help. You will be doing a very valuable service for this precious soul.

The mission of The Drill Sergeant of Life is to help YOU get over self, get out of self’s way, let go of the PAST, and get what YOU want out of life! We hope this post has been beneficial to you today. If it resonates with you, please feel free to share.

Until next time! Be abundantly blessed! #GodIsFaithful

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

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Letting Go of the PAST – The File Cabinet of Life(c)

stuffed file cabinet Do you face challenges with letting go of the PAST because your File Cabinet of Life is filled to overflowing with STUFF you keep pulling up? Do you want to let go of this STUFF so you can progress in your life and move forward with what God has created just for you?

Oftentimes, we hold on to STUFF because…

1. It just feels good.

2. It still looks purposeful.

3. You will miss it when it’s gone.

STUFFSomething That Undermines Forward Functioning (and, yes, I just made that up!)

Something That Undermines Forward Functioning.

Think about this: when you spend so much of your time dwelling on the PAST and what was, you fail to consider what is and what could be.

When you spend so much of your time dwelling on the PAST, your future is put on hold and you become discouraged because there is no forward movement.

What can you do?

Clean out your File Cabinet of Life(c)!

Take some time today and begin wading through those things in your File Cabinet that you can discard because they serve no useful purpose. Follow these three tips:

1. Pull up your earliest memory as a test from your File Cabinet of Life(c). If it is pleasant, keep it. If not-so-pleasant, discard in the Round File of Life(c).

2. Now, pull up your earliest, not-so-pleasant memory. My first was a memory of sexual abuse. Take it out of your File Cabinet. Consider it from all angles. Since it is over and done with, there is really no need for you to file it anymore. Get a different perspective. Give yourself permission to see that you were not in control. And if you were, you were too young to do anything differently. Release the memory and place the file in the Round File of Life(c).

3. Go through and assess all the files in your File Cabinet. If they are beneficial, keep them. If not, throw them out.

Now, there is more to this. To learn from about using the File Cabinet of Life(c), order my book, How To Get Over Yourself and Let Go of the PAST, today. Here is the link: http://drillsergeantoflife.com/products/

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If this post has been beneficial to you and resonates in your heart, please share with someone else who might need a breakthrough in this area of their life. As always, I treasure your comments, encouragement, and suggestions. Please respond to this blog or send an email to email hidden; JavaScript is required.

Until next time, May God abundantly bless you in all that you do. Especially in Letting Go of the PAST! God Is Faithful!.

Beatrice

 

Letting Go – Even when it hurts…

Vic and MeThis week’s blog post is dedicated to my family’s dog, Victory! This is our last picture together. RIP, Poo-Poo! We’ll see you on the other side!

Letting Go… Even When It Hurts!

Today I said goodbye to my furry friend and child, Victory Bruno. It was probably one of the hardest goodbyes and decisions I have ever had to make. Victory has been in my family for about 10 years.

In 2004, I went on a hunting expedition at the Adams County Animal Shelter for my furry companion. When I arrived at the shelter, (yes, Victory’s departure has brought it all back!) I walked around, slowly, so I could see the dogs in their temporary habitat. I saw many dogs that day, but, my future “Victory” stuck out in my mind. When I approached his cage, he looked at me as if to say, “What do YOU want?”

Yes, I picked up on his snootiness! I walked around a bit more to the other dogs that had struck my interest and then made my way back to this red Pomeranian. His fur was matted, he appeared to be scared and sad that he was locked up in this small cage.

I went to the front desk to inquire about this dog. The lady told me that someone else had already requested the dog. A little bit sad and dejected, I went back to his cage and told him he was going to go home with someone else. Surprisingly, he walked to the door of the cage and sniffed through the bars. I put my hand down to touch the cage… he licked my hand. That was it! I knew I had to have this dog.

When I went back to the front desk, I asked the lady was she sure someone else was coming to get “my” dog. She pulled me aside and told me to be back at a certain time. If the person who had requested the dog was not there, then “Victory” would be mine.

I left the shelter, praying all the way home, asking God to please let this dog come into my house. Long story short, He did. And Victory was an honored member of my family for 10 years.

Last week, Victory stopped eating. He would only take in water. I knew in my heart this might be the end/beginning. But, I hoped. On Monday, yesterday, I took Victory to the Vet Clinic for the last time. I had to make a decision. My decision was to not allow my dog to suffer anymore.

Sometimes when letting go of the PAST, we have to make a decision that will hurt. We have to decide not to let that situation or circumstance hurt us or the other party anymore. In order to be made whole, we must make the decision.

There are decisions you must make today so you can stop hurting. Your pain may be such that it is also affecting others and hurting them as well. Do the right thing. Make the right decision… even when it hurts.

If this post resonates with you, please feel free to forward to others who may need to make a decision. Please sign up on The Drill Sergeant of Life email list for future offerings, tips, and strategies.

May God bless you and keep you! #GodIsFaithful #LetItGo

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

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Let Go of the PAST – Matthew 11:28

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Letting go of the PAST –  those People, Places, Possibilities And Situations (that should be) Terminated – has everything to do with Matthew 11:28 – 30.

28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

In scripture, we are instructed to cast all, ALL, our cares upon Him (God through Jesus Christ) because He cares for us. Can you believe today that the Lord cares enough for you to take all your burdens upon Himself?

Can you believe He wants to take the hurt, the disappointment, the discouragement, the pain of your PAST from you so you can move forward into the incredible future He has for you?

If you could lay one burden on the Lord today, what would it be? Would it be the disappointment of a divorce? The discouragement of losing a job? The pain of words spoken over you years ago but you still carry with you?

Do this today:

1. Write down one thing, yes, only one (for now) you are willing to release to the Lord today. Pray, ask. God will give you the guidance you need. Keep this list because you will be adding to it frequently in your quest to let go of the PAST.

2. Write a “Dear John” letter to this thing. Write down everything you have held in your heart, the length of time you have held it, and what it has kept you from doing as you attempted to move forward.

3. Seal in an envelope addressed to “The Lover of My Soul.” Keep it in a safe place until a much later date. (Contact me at email hidden; JavaScript is required to find out your next step on this letter.)

3. Now, write a “Hello, I’m Free!” letter to yourself. Write down what the release of this thing will do for you. How will you feel? What will you be able to do now that this one burden has lifted? How much relief will you feel? Also, write an affirmation that you will not return to that thing once you have released it to “The Lover Of My Soul.” Place this letter in a place where you can access it daily until you have internalized the newness of letting that one thing go.

4. Celebrate you: you released this one thing! I celebrate with you!

You can let go of the PAST! It is doable.

Believe!

Trust!

Have Faith in God and in yourself that you can let go!

Drop me a note at email hidden; JavaScript is required to share or comment on this post. I look forward to hearing about your achievement in letting go of just one thing. Just this one action will propel you forward as never before! If this post has resonated with you in any way, please share it with someone else who might need the same wise counsel.

Until next time… Be abundantly blessed! God Is Faithful!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

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Let Go of the PAST – PAST Residue

Forgive and change the future

Even though you have decided to let go of the PAST, have you discovered residue from PAST hurts, disappointments, pain and challenges? If so, try these steps on your path to let go of the PAST so you can embrace the awesome future in front of you.

1. Admit you still hurt. Physically, you can tell if a person is in pain from a past accident or medical condition. They may wear a cast or a bandage. They might limp. There may be ongoing appointments with their primary care physician. Emotionally, in letting go of the PAST, though, we often hurt on the inside where no one sees. When we allow this residue to contaminate our lives, we carry hurts we think are invisible. Eventually, though, those hurts come out in ways we could never imagine, ways we would rather they not come out.

2. Acknowledge those things that still affect your forward movement. Are you in pain? Say so! Does your heart still hurt every time you see the perpetrator of that pain? Let it be known! Now, you might not want to tell that person. However, if you have a good friend, a Pastor, a confidante, tell it! You will feel better. Oftentimes, I have told only One Person – the Lord. Sometimes, that pain has been so heavy in my heart: the discouragement has incapacitated me, or the disappointment has caused me to isolate myself. In that instance, the only thing I can do is pray a sobbing prayer. It’s OK. Do that! You will experience a release in your spirit from the turmoil you have faced.

3. Accept you are still healing. Don’t try to “fake it until you make it”! I actually despise this saying because when a person fakes it until they make it, they sometimes forget to stop faking it. They fake that everything is OK when it is not. They fake that things are different and they are not. Accept that you are still healing! Don’t try to make others believe a condition not actually present in your life. It impedes the healing process!

4. Actively seek help through prayer and Godly counsel. Don’t try to do it by yourself. God has given us people that truly love us. Go to your Pastor. Go to a close, trusted friend, one who has God’s ear and heart. Talk this thing through so you can receive healing for your soul.

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Please send your comments, questions, or suggestions on PAST issues you want to see presented in our blog. The Drill Sergeant of Life looks forward to hearing from you!

Until next time… Be encouraged! The BEST is yet to come!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Letting Go of the PAST – The Desire to Let Go…

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Your desire to let go of the PAST must be stronger than your desire to hold on to those things you have become quite comfortable with.

You see, the PAST has a tendency to really suck a person in. When that happens, the PAST continues to lure that person in deeper and deeper so he or she can’t recognize what is happening.

I met a lady this weekend, a homeless woman who had fallen onto hard times. She wasn’t very old, maybe 40s or 50, but you could tell that life had been hard. The killing thing about her situation is that she has a law degree: she is/was/could still be an attorney. But, something in her PAST triggered this circumstance. Now that alcohol has taken hold of her, the alcohol gives her that false sense of security. She can’t recognize that her PAST can only dictate her future as much as she allows.

Are you facing difficulty in letting go of your PAST? Do you want to let go but can’t seem to find the intestinal fortitude you need to break away and move forward as never before?

The Drill Sergeant of Life is here to help you make sense of those things that are holding you back so you can’t grasp the future God has created and designed just for you.

1. We will help you through a five-step process to prepare you to let go of the PAST. Then,

2. We will identify those things holding you back. Finally,

3. We will create a tailored system for you to follow that will not only help you let go of the PAST, it will also enable you to embrace your incredible future.

The first step in the process is easy and accessible. How To Get Over Yourself and Let Go of the PAST is a simple way to get started on your path to healing. You can find the book here: http://drillsergeantoflife.com/products/.

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Let Go of your PAST and find healing for your soul. If this post resonates with you or you know of someone who would benefit from this message, please feel free to share or forward.

May God continually bless you!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

 

Letting Go of the PAST: Healing

What Letting Go Is Not

Are you letting go of the PAST and healing properly?

Have you healed from all you have been through? Are you still carrying around the residue of PAST pains, hurts, disappointments, etc.?

How can you tell if you are carrying residue from the PAST?

1. Every conversation is about you.
2. You find hurt or offense in every conversation.
3. You continually bring up persons or conversations from your PAST.
4. You cannot move forward.
5. (Fill in the blank…)

If you find yourself in any of the scenarios above, here are some steps to help you:

1. Admit you are still hurt.
2. Acknowledge those things that still affect your forward movement.
3. Accept that you are still in the healing process.
4. Actively seek help through prayer and Godly counsel.

Letting go of the PAST and healing from your PAST is not easy. Many things will come up that will hold you right where you are and hinder your forward progress.

Would you like to…

A. Let go of your PAST

and…

B. Heal from those things that continually return and keep you enmeshed in your PAST?

Do you need a “Let Go of the PAST” coach? One of the best places to start is here with the book, “How To Get Over Yourself and Let Go of the PAST!”

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Order today from our products page here: http://drillsergeantoflife.com/products/

Please send me your comments, questions, or suggestions on PAST issues you want to see presented in our blog. I look forward to hearing from you!

Until next time… Be encouraged! The BEST is yet to come!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Letting Go of Your PAST: The Process…

Holding on to the past

The Process of Letting Go of Your PAST…

Don’t you wish life were just ABC and 123? Wouldn’t it be so simple if you had a plan for letting go of your past so you could grab hold of your awesome future?

Believe it or not, there is! And here is the process…

  1. Step one
  2. Prepare your heart and mind to let go.

  3. Step two
  4. Prepare your life to let go.

  5. Step three
  6. Choose to experience the newness that letting go will bring.

  7. Step four
  8. Gain a different perspective because you are letting go.

  9. Step five
  10. Enjoy the new journey that life offers because you are letting go.

Everything is a process! In order for you to enjoy scrambled eggs for breakfast, you must follow a process.

scrambled eggs

You can’t just place two eggs in a skillet and turn the stove on and expect scrambled eggs! First of all, you must crack open the eggs! If you just place two whole eggs in the skillet and turn on the heat, all you are going to enjoy is cleaning up a mess!

And that’s what your life will become if you don’t follow a distinct, specific process of letting go of your PAST. Each step has to be taken seriously and on purpose so you can reach your goal.

Although the above steps may seem simplistic, and it may seem as though you can skip step three and move forward to step four, don’t do it! Each step is designed for you to process and progress so you may achieve the optimal results of letting go of your PAST.

The desire of The Drill Sergeant of Life is that you walk in personal Power, Productivity, and Prosperity. Our posts about the Process of Letting Go of Your PAST will enable you to move forward in your quest as never before. If you are finding benefit from our posts, please feel free to pass them along to someone who may not be at the level of letting go of the PAST that you are!

Stay tuned! The BEST is yet to come! God is faithful!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Your PAST and How It Affects Everything You Do…

past will let go of you

How does your PAST affect everything you do?

Do you need to be in charge?

Did you ever stop to think that the reason you operate like this is because someone or something in your PAST took your power?

Think about it. In your PAST, when you were abused, you lost some of your personal power.

Neglected or rejected? You lost some more of your personal power.

When you seemingly failed at something that was important to you, it was difficult to bounce back because you couldn’t regain that place of power in your life.

Oftentimes, when dealing with your PAST issues, you will find that your power has been zapped. Now, this may or may not necessarily be because you have given this power away. No, instead, it is because you believed you were powerless in the face of the opposition.

Nothing could be further from the truth!!

As a child in your PAST abusive situations, you were probably not able to say, “No!”

As a matter of fact, during the incident(s), you were probably made to believe, “You can’t do anything about the abuse and must accept it.”

But, we don’t stay children always!

Unfortunately, as we grow older, those same mindsets tend to follow. Now that we are older, we have the power to say, “No!”

But, because we don’t realize the same mindset follows us, we don’t access that power.

Today, give yourself permission to overcome your PAST. Give yourself permission to leave your past behind and embrace the awesome future God has prepared for you. Do these three things:

1. Get a clear assessment of your PAST and how it has affected you going forward.
2. Start cleaning out the archives of your life. I can show you how.
3. Prepare to move forward into the incredible future in front of you!!

Over the next several weeks, we are going to delve into the File Cabinet of Life© and start cleaning things out. Believe it or not, there are many things in there that should be discarded. Your paradigm will shift and you will find a clear pathway to power, productivity, and prosperity as you heal from your PAST and those things that have hindered you for so long.

The Drill Sergeant of Life truly wants to see you rise up out of the ashes of your PAST and receive ALL God has created for you! This is what personal freedom is all about!

Leave your thoughts and don’t forget to like and share today’s message. Help transform, motivate, and inspire those closest to you, even those that are not!

Until next time!

God is faithful!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Breathe and Let Go

Letting Go of the PAST – 3 Things To Do If It Returns!

Gandhi on forgiveness

Are you letting go of the past but have discovered that it wants to return?

You receive a phone call, a text, an email. You look at the number or the address. You vaguely recognize it. Thinking it is harmless, you open it.

It’s from… Him! Her! Them! Your PAST has returned!

You read quickly through the message, wanting to get through it as quickly as possible. You don’t want to be tainted by the message from your PAST.

After all, you have been letting go of the past, haven’t you? You’re doing all the right things, aren’t you?

The message itself, seems harmless enough. But, you feel funny inside.

“Is she for real!”

“He’s got to be joking! Take him back!”

“Come back?”

You debate on whether to answer by return email or text.

And then, it sinks in: I thought I was over this person? I thought I had dealt with all these emotions: anger, hurt, disappointment. I thought I was letting go of the past?

Your emotions run the gamut, as though you had never dealt with this incident from your PAST before!

Believe it or not, even though you are actively letting go of the past, you have to heal from the PAST hurts, disappointments, and situations you have experienced.

Sometimes, it’s not enough to say, “I forgive you/it/her/him/them/myself…” You actually have to allow yourself to heal: your heart, your mind, everything.

Have you healed? Do you still experience the dregs of your PAST experiences? Here are three things to help you succeed in finally letting go of the PAST.

  1. Deal with the fact that you haven’t moved on from your PAST! Give yourself time to heal. If you have to remove yourself from some people or situations in the process of letting go of the past, do just that! You will benefit from that action alone!
  2. Encourage yourself! Don’t put yourself down!  Know that you are still going through and growing through life situations and circumstances.
  3. Make peace with your past so you will be able to move forward as never before. This is all part of the process of letting go of the past.

make peace with past

 

As you move forward in letting go of the past, you will discover that the act becomes easier. No, I didn’t say it would be effortless! I said easier. 

Don’t let the process get you down! 

Maintain your integrity and diligence in letting go of the past and, sooner than you think, the past will let go of you!

If these blogs have resonated with you, please feel free to pass them on to others who may be in need of tips and strategies in letting go of the past. If you would like to continue receiving tips and strategies from The Drill Sergeant of Life, please sign up for our email list.

Until next time…

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Learn From The PAST: 5 Keys of Forgiveness

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Learn from The PAST

Would you like to experience more freedom in your life?

Freedom to be Productive?

Freedom to Prosper?

Freedom to Love (again)?

Freedom to Grow?

Freedom to __(Fill in the blank)______________________?

Believe it or not, Forgiveness = Freedom!

When you learn from the PAST and forgive, these 5 events will occur in your life as you free your heart

  1. Love – You give yourself permission to love again. You see, unforgiveness hardens your heart and keeps you from sharing the most important gift of all: LOVE!
  2. Grow – When you forgive, you begin to stretch and grow in ways you haven’t been able to stretch and grow in for quite some time. You take the limits off yourself and grow in the areas that need it the most!
  3. Prosperity – Have you noticed that as long as your heart is full of unforgiveness, you tend to not prosper when you know you should be prospering? When you forgive, your heart and your mind is able to think prosperous thoughts because you are now ready to receive the prosperity you were created to have in your life.
  4. Produce – Do you want your productivity to increase? Forgive! Forgiveness opens up the dam of productivity that has been locked because the walls of anger, disappointment, and unforgiveness. Let it all go and watch how productive you become!
  5. Do whatever you want to do! There are no limits in your life now because you have learned from the PAST and are using what you learned to your greatest advantage!

Over this past weekend here in the USA, we celebrated the 4th of July, symbolic of the freedoms we are afforded. Independence!

Are you independent from the bondage of your PAST? Have you given yourself permission to Learn From The PAST so you can enjoy the incredible freedom available to you!

Proclaim your freedom?

Don’t be bound by the PAST. Learn from the PAST!

Are you ready to experience freedom as never before?

The Drill Sergeant of Life wants to help you experience Freedom by Learning from the PAST as never before so YOU can be ALL YOU can be in the Armed Forces of Life! Once you learn from the PAST and begin experiencing the freedom available to you, everything you want out of life will begin to take off like crazy!

Today’s blog officially ends our six part series on Learning From The PAST. Beginning in our next post, we will concentrate more on your freedom so you can get to where you desire to be in life.

If this blog resonates with you and you desire to learn more about Letting Go of the PAST so you can embrace the incredible future God has created for you, please sign up for my email list. Also, please feel free to forward this and other blog posts to those you feel will benefit from The Drill Sergeant of Life!

Independence Day does not have to be just one day in your life! Every day, declare your independence from your PAST so you can move forward into the incredible future God has prepared for you! Please send me your comments so I can help you be/become ALL YOU care to be in the Army of Life!

To read Part V of the series, go here: http://drillsergeantoflife.com/learnfromyourpastpartv/

Until next time…

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

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To Forgive or Not to Forgive: PAST Lessons

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To Forgive or Not to Forgive – That IS the Question! Part 5

Learn From The PAST! What does that really mean to you? Can you take the key points of pain and use them to propel you forward as never before?

How much do you want to hurt in life?

Now, that may seem like such an inane question to some. However, the thought that needs to be considered here is: the more we carry around those things from the past that hurt us the most, the more we will hurt. It is essential that we learn from the past.

FORGIVE!

Forgive others!

Forgive God!

Forgive Yourself!

Learn from the past and forgive! Watch the amazing things that will begin to happen in your life:

  1. Your heart stops hurting. You will experience an immediate release of the burden you have been carrying in your heart in a negative way.
  2. You can concentrate on the more important things in life. Nothing is more important in life than to live and love abundantly in the way Jesus provided for us.
  3. You learn new things about yourself you never knew: your capacity to create in ways you never imagined.
  4. You can accept the imperfections of yourself and turn those imperfections into triumphs as you go through and grow through life’s challenges.
  5. You can rest easy as you learn from the past that could or should have destroyed you. Instead it created a better you!

You see, when you forgive, it’s not about others: it’s about you!

Forgive, learn from the past, and take a chance today!

To read part IV, please click here: http://drillsergeantoflife.com/learnfromyourpastpartiv/

Please send comments if this series has inspired you to move forward through forgiveness. As always, I enjoy your comments as they cause me to improve where needed. And please feel free to sign up for my newsletter to continue to receive tips, strategies, and guidance to Get Over Yourself and Let Go of the P.A.S.T.

Until next time…

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Forgive Yourself: Be Kind to YOU!

Be kind to YOU

Forgive Yourself! Learn from the PAST and how unforgiving others have been toward you! Part IV

Repeat the following phrase as many times as needed throughout the day until you believe it with all your heart: I Am NOT My P.A.S.T.!

Have you come to a place in your life in which you actually dislike yourself?

Do you blame yourself for things that occurred in your P.A.S.T. that you feel could have been prevented had you not (fill in the blank)? Do you find it difficult or challenging to forgive yourself?

Stop it!

Let yourself go!!!

Forgive Yourself!

The majority of the things that occurred in your life when you were younger were not your fault. In most cases, you were not a willing participant! As a matter of fact, you were probably too young to even know what was really going on at the time.

We can’t always explain the things that happen in our lives when we are younger. There are some things that were never meant to happen. There are people, just like you and me, who do things just because they can.

So, forgive YOURSELF!

Do this:

1. Sit down and write a letter to the younger you. In the letter, praise the younger you for making it through all the strife, turmoil, and negativity! For those of you who committed crimes against yourself as you got older, forgive that younger version of yourself.

2. Pour out your heart to the younger you. Let that version of yourself feel your remorse, your angst, even your anger and despair! He or she needs to know that you felt those things. Even more, he or she needs to know that’s it’s OK to shut the door on those things.

3. Release yourself from those things you perceive you were in control of! Determine in your heart and mind today that this is it: A New Day in your life!

 

Now,

Inhale deeply

Exhale completely!

Say with conviction:

I AM NOT MY P.A.S.T.!

I was Fill in the Blank             as a child! But, I survived Fill in as many blanks as you need___________ and am emotionally whole.

I was abandoned by my __________________________. I survived rejection and am accepted.

I was abused. I survived abuse and am now loved.

Create your own affirmation with conviction and believe in your heart that you are set free. Forgive Yourself and walk in freedom!

If this post resonates with you, if the series has been helpful so far, please send me your comments. I look forward to your comments as they show me which way I need to go with these teachings.

To read part three, click here: http://drillsergeantoflife.com/learnfrompastpart3/

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Be abundantly blessed! God is faithful!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Learning from Your P.A.S.T., Part III

Forgiving… God?

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Many of you will balk at the idea of forgiving God. Understood. However, consider this…

Mark 11:25 – 26, And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.

How many times have you gotten so angry with God, you couldn’t, wouldn’t speak to Him for days on end?

I know it sounds crazy, but, we all do it. We may not exactly show our anger or rage by pumping our fist toward Heaven or cursing up to Him. Instead, we just become angry and go into a place in ourselves, ignoring and not speaking to Him.

We’ve all done it. Within the last 5 or six months, I remember driving down the street, crying, raging inside, and telling Him, “Lord, I am so angry with you! Why aren’t You doing anything?”

I was sooooo angry!

Have you been there? Are you there now? Are you angry with God because He didn’t do something on your behalf?

Or, He did something, it just wasn’t what YOU wanted done in that situation or circumstance?

I go into depth on this subject in my book, How To Get Over Yourself and Let Go of the P.A.S.T. But, for now, do these three things:

  • Admit the anger, the hurt, the pain, the confusion you feel toward God. Admit it to God! Admit it to a close, trusted advisor. (Caution: Now is not the time to go to one of your judgmental friends!)
  • Submit the anger, hurt, pain, and confusion to God. He is a BIG God! He understands that you are only dust! And finally,
  • Repent which means to turn away from.

After you repent, it’s OK to say, “Lord, I forgive You! I thought I knew what was best for my life. But, I didn’t. Now, Lord, please forgive me!”

Feel free to also write a letter to the Lord. Pour it all out in the letter if it doesn’t come out in the first wash.

OK. That’s a wrap for this week. If this blog has resonated with you in any way, please comment. If you would like to receive more from The Drill Sergeant of Life, please sign up on my webpage at, www.DrillSergeantofLife.com.

To read Part II, click here: http://drillsergeantoflife.com/learnfrompastpart2/

Be abundantly blessed! God is faithful!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Learning From Your P.A.S.T., Part II

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Forgiving Perpetrators, Perceived and Real

Excerpt from the book, How To Get Over Yourself and Let Go of the P.A.S.T.

You must choose to release your perpetrators, both perceived and real, from your heart. The longer you hold on to them, the longer it takes for you to grab hold of your future and move forward.

Your future is waiting for you to release those past experiences and grab hold of the new experiences it has for you.

Make your choice today to let go of your past!”

Look back in your life. Consider the pain, the heartache, the unforgiveness you have experienced. Doesn’t it make sense to just forgive those that have hurt you?

Why? They are moving forward in life. He or she is quite possibly unconcerned with what you are experiencing. 

Let your life be an example of true forgiveness. Perhaps this perpetrator will see your example and decide that the way he or she is living is not altogether right.

Learn from your P.A.S.T. and forgive. Someone is waiting to see your example so they can follow.

How? Do this:

1. Write a letter to the perpetrator. It does not have to be mailed. Just writing it will be healing. In the letter, acknowledge each and every offense. Forgive.

2. Release the person from any wrongdoing. You cannot imagine how good you will feel just from this action!

3. Thank the person for allowing you to experience this growing moment.

Is this helpful for you? Many people have found peace, comfort, and release from just this one exercise. The Drill Sergeant of Life is here to help you do the same.

Stay Tuned for Part Three. To read Part One of this series, please go here: drillsergeantoflife.com/learnfrompast1/ Each part of this six part series is geared to helping you Let Go of the P.A.S.T. so you can grab hold of the incredible future God has created just for you. If this post resonates with you, please comment. I look forward to hearing from you! Do you want more? Sign up for my email list.

Until next time…

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

How To Learn From Your P.A.S.T., Part 1

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The P.A.S.T. can hurt!

Some of the things you have endured have been hurtful, almost to the point where you just didn’t want to go on! You didn’t know how to get past some of those hurtful things.

You prayed!

You cried!

You begged God, “Please, Lord, take me home!”

It’s OK. Many of us have been there. We have been in a place where we didn’t want to hurt anymore, a place of distrust of others, a place where we tried to shelter ourselves from being hurt again.

And, it didn’t work! As a matter of fact, it had the opposite effect. Each instance of hurting caused us to want to run away… from the perpetrators, from God, from ourselves, to no avail.

At some point, though, we discovered we had to stop running. We found we had to stand.

And we can stand!

We can stand, not just against those that hurt us. We can stand in our own being and be the man or woman God has created us to be!

But, we must learn from our P.A.S.T. We must learn:

• How to forgive: the perpetrator, God (yes, God! More about this later), ourselves!
• How to release people from our lives and move on.
• How to thank (yes, Thank!) those who have hurt us.

Are you ready to learn from your P.A.S.T.? The Drill Sergeant of Life is here to help you do just that! This is Part One of a six-part series on learning from your P.A.S.T. Stay Tuned!

Letting Go of the P.A.S.T. is a journey. For some, it is reasonably quick. For others, it may take some time. (I’m one of the others and it is an ongoing process.)

If this post resonates with you, please comment. Also, join The Drill Sergeant of Life mailing list and receive tips, strategies, and solutions for letting go of the P.A.S.T. so you can grab hold of the awesome future in front of you!

Until next time!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Letting Go: What It Is and What It Is NOT!

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Letting Go is not about completely forgetting you ever went through anything. As a matter of fact, it’s quite the opposite. Letting Go is remembering those things from the experience that you can learn from and use for your good in your future. I love acronyms. Let’s make an acronym for L.E.T. G.O., shall we? Is that OK? Let’s go.

Learn from your P.A.S.T.
Embrace your P.A.S.T. in a good way
Take your power back
Get help
Operate in the Fruit of the Spirit

Each week, you will receive tips, strategies, and an explanation of each of the letters of the acronym. As you move forward, concentrating on each letter, you will find that you are better equipped to let go of those things that are hindering you and move forward to what God has prepared for you.

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Until next time…

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life