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Letting Go – Even when it hurts…

Vic and MeThis week’s blog post is dedicated to my family’s dog, Victory! This is our last picture together. RIP, Poo-Poo! We’ll see you on the other side!

Letting Go… Even When It Hurts!

Today I said goodbye to my furry friend and child, Victory Bruno. It was probably one of the hardest goodbyes and decisions I have ever had to make. Victory has been in my family for about 10 years.

In 2004, I went on a hunting expedition at the Adams County Animal Shelter for my furry companion. When I arrived at the shelter, (yes, Victory’s departure has brought it all back!) I walked around, slowly, so I could see the dogs in their temporary habitat. I saw many dogs that day, but, my future “Victory” stuck out in my mind. When I approached his cage, he looked at me as if to say, “What do YOU want?”

Yes, I picked up on his snootiness! I walked around a bit more to the other dogs that had struck my interest and then made my way back to this red Pomeranian. His fur was matted, he appeared to be scared and sad that he was locked up in this small cage.

I went to the front desk to inquire about this dog. The lady told me that someone else had already requested the dog. A little bit sad and dejected, I went back to his cage and told him he was going to go home with someone else. Surprisingly, he walked to the door of the cage and sniffed through the bars. I put my hand down to touch the cage… he licked my hand. That was it! I knew I had to have this dog.

When I went back to the front desk, I asked the lady was she sure someone else was coming to get “my” dog. She pulled me aside and told me to be back at a certain time. If the person who had requested the dog was not there, then “Victory” would be mine.

I left the shelter, praying all the way home, asking God to please let this dog come into my house. Long story short, He did. And Victory was an honored member of my family for 10 years.

Last week, Victory stopped eating. He would only take in water. I knew in my heart this might be the end/beginning. But, I hoped. On Monday, yesterday, I took Victory to the Vet Clinic for the last time. I had to make a decision. My decision was to not allow my dog to suffer anymore.

Sometimes when letting go of the PAST, we have to make a decision that will hurt. We have to decide not to let that situation or circumstance hurt us or the other party anymore. In order to be made whole, we must make the decision.

There are decisions you must make today so you can stop hurting. Your pain may be such that it is also affecting others and hurting them as well. Do the right thing. Make the right decision… even when it hurts.

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May God bless you and keep you! #GodIsFaithful #LetItGo

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

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Let Go of the PAST – Matthew 11:28

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Letting go of the PAST –  those People, Places, Possibilities And Situations (that should be) Terminated – has everything to do with Matthew 11:28 – 30.

28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

In scripture, we are instructed to cast all, ALL, our cares upon Him (God through Jesus Christ) because He cares for us. Can you believe today that the Lord cares enough for you to take all your burdens upon Himself?

Can you believe He wants to take the hurt, the disappointment, the discouragement, the pain of your PAST from you so you can move forward into the incredible future He has for you?

If you could lay one burden on the Lord today, what would it be? Would it be the disappointment of a divorce? The discouragement of losing a job? The pain of words spoken over you years ago but you still carry with you?

Do this today:

1. Write down one thing, yes, only one (for now) you are willing to release to the Lord today. Pray, ask. God will give you the guidance you need. Keep this list because you will be adding to it frequently in your quest to let go of the PAST.

2. Write a “Dear John” letter to this thing. Write down everything you have held in your heart, the length of time you have held it, and what it has kept you from doing as you attempted to move forward.

3. Seal in an envelope addressed to “The Lover of My Soul.” Keep it in a safe place until a much later date. (Contact me at email hidden; JavaScript is required to find out your next step on this letter.)

3. Now, write a “Hello, I’m Free!” letter to yourself. Write down what the release of this thing will do for you. How will you feel? What will you be able to do now that this one burden has lifted? How much relief will you feel? Also, write an affirmation that you will not return to that thing once you have released it to “The Lover Of My Soul.” Place this letter in a place where you can access it daily until you have internalized the newness of letting that one thing go.

4. Celebrate you: you released this one thing! I celebrate with you!

You can let go of the PAST! It is doable.

Believe!

Trust!

Have Faith in God and in yourself that you can let go!

Drop me a note at email hidden; JavaScript is required to share or comment on this post. I look forward to hearing about your achievement in letting go of just one thing. Just this one action will propel you forward as never before! If this post has resonated with you in any way, please share it with someone else who might need the same wise counsel.

Until next time… Be abundantly blessed! God Is Faithful!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

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Let Go of the PAST – PAST Residue

Forgive and change the future

Even though you have decided to let go of the PAST, have you discovered residue from PAST hurts, disappointments, pain and challenges? If so, try these steps on your path to let go of the PAST so you can embrace the awesome future in front of you.

1. Admit you still hurt. Physically, you can tell if a person is in pain from a past accident or medical condition. They may wear a cast or a bandage. They might limp. There may be ongoing appointments with their primary care physician. Emotionally, in letting go of the PAST, though, we often hurt on the inside where no one sees. When we allow this residue to contaminate our lives, we carry hurts we think are invisible. Eventually, though, those hurts come out in ways we could never imagine, ways we would rather they not come out.

2. Acknowledge those things that still affect your forward movement. Are you in pain? Say so! Does your heart still hurt every time you see the perpetrator of that pain? Let it be known! Now, you might not want to tell that person. However, if you have a good friend, a Pastor, a confidante, tell it! You will feel better. Oftentimes, I have told only One Person – the Lord. Sometimes, that pain has been so heavy in my heart: the discouragement has incapacitated me, or the disappointment has caused me to isolate myself. In that instance, the only thing I can do is pray a sobbing prayer. It’s OK. Do that! You will experience a release in your spirit from the turmoil you have faced.

3. Accept you are still healing. Don’t try to “fake it until you make it”! I actually despise this saying because when a person fakes it until they make it, they sometimes forget to stop faking it. They fake that everything is OK when it is not. They fake that things are different and they are not. Accept that you are still healing! Don’t try to make others believe a condition not actually present in your life. It impedes the healing process!

4. Actively seek help through prayer and Godly counsel. Don’t try to do it by yourself. God has given us people that truly love us. Go to your Pastor. Go to a close, trusted friend, one who has God’s ear and heart. Talk this thing through so you can receive healing for your soul.

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Please send your comments, questions, or suggestions on PAST issues you want to see presented in our blog. The Drill Sergeant of Life looks forward to hearing from you!

Until next time… Be encouraged! The BEST is yet to come!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

Letting Go of the PAST: Healing

What Letting Go Is Not

Are you letting go of the PAST and healing properly?

Have you healed from all you have been through? Are you still carrying around the residue of PAST pains, hurts, disappointments, etc.?

How can you tell if you are carrying residue from the PAST?

1. Every conversation is about you.
2. You find hurt or offense in every conversation.
3. You continually bring up persons or conversations from your PAST.
4. You cannot move forward.
5. (Fill in the blank…)

If you find yourself in any of the scenarios above, here are some steps to help you:

1. Admit you are still hurt.
2. Acknowledge those things that still affect your forward movement.
3. Accept that you are still in the healing process.
4. Actively seek help through prayer and Godly counsel.

Letting go of the PAST and healing from your PAST is not easy. Many things will come up that will hold you right where you are and hinder your forward progress.

Would you like to…

A. Let go of your PAST

and…

B. Heal from those things that continually return and keep you enmeshed in your PAST?

Do you need a “Let Go of the PAST” coach? One of the best places to start is here with the book, “How To Get Over Yourself and Let Go of the PAST!”

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Please send me your comments, questions, or suggestions on PAST issues you want to see presented in our blog. I look forward to hearing from you!

Until next time… Be encouraged! The BEST is yet to come!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life