Articles tagged with: pain

The Place of Nevertheless – Part One

On November 10, 2009, my dad called from New York to ask if I could come and help him. He was about to undergo several eye surgeries and needed me to help by driving him and accompanying him to his various appointments.

On December 9, 2009, my oldest daughter and I departed Denver. She was accompanying me to check on her Granddad. When we got situated on the plane, she asked, “Did you know Mae’s (my biological mother) cancer has returned?” God had set me up.

At that point, I looked out the window toward the sky and acknowledged, “You’ve set me up, haven’t You?” He didn’t have to answer. I already knew.

I thought I would only be in New York for three, maybe six months. God allowed me to be away from home for a period of 13.5 months. One year, one and a half months. 405 days.

I was away from my husband, our children, our home, my church family. Everything. Plus, I was in an apartment with a man, my biological father, with whom I had never spent a great deal of time. I didn’t grow up with him. I grew up with his family, my grandmother and grandfather. I didn’t really get to know him. As a matter of fact, I only discovered he was my biological father when I was about 15 or 16. Therefore, there was no emotional attachment. I was only going to do the dutiful daughter thing.

Now, mind you, I had come to know him. He was married to a wonderful woman, my stepmother, Margaret, for about 40 years. She passed away in 2005 from Alzheimer-related illnesses. She was my girl! I loved that chick! Him? Well, you understand.

Anyway, about 6 or 7 months into this sojourn, I began crying one morning as I prayed. I very badly wanted to return to Denver!

I missed my family!

I missed my friends!

I missed my life!

I was in a place where I was not wanted. My dad had already told me he liked doing things by himself. I was willing to let him do those things…by himself.

But God…

As I cried that morning, telling God I couldn’t take it anymore, frustrated in ways I’d never experienced, I heard the voice of the Lord say, “Do you have one more nevertheless?

Do you like television shows that end the season with a cliffhanger? Well, this is my cliffhanger.

Before I let you go, though, I want you to think about this: has God asked you for just one more nevertheless? And if He has, what was your response? Has God taken you on a journey in which He is requiring more from you?

In two weeks, I will share my response.

God has taken The Drill Sergeant of Life on a journey I never expected. This journey will cause me to be/become what He has called and created me to be.

I hope you enjoy and will share my blogs. They come straight from my heart, washed by the anointing of the Almighty God Whom I gladly serve.

God is faithful to perform!

May God abundantly bless you.

 

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

 

 

Letting Go of the PAST – The Freedom of Forgiveness

Forgive and change the future Letting Go of the PAST and Forgiving provides us with elements of Freedom we should desire to experience on a daily basis!

After all, Letting Go of the PAST is not so much about the other person as it is about you! One of the things we need to recognize when we go through something that brings trauma into our lives is that we (our hearts, minds, and souls) become bruised from the intrusion of the transgression.

But, if we will allow ourselves, give ourselves permission to forgive, we will be able to experience the freedom of forgiveness in a new way!

Today, I invite you to revisit one of my previous posts about this subject. Click here.

Think about this:

  1. How many people do you know, personally or publicly, who seem to have so much baggage from the PAST in their lives, they find it hard to move forward?
  2. Do you notice in their conversation that they seem to say the same things over and over? Or,
  3. Every conversation seems to turn to them no matter how much work the person has to do to get the topic back on themselves.

My friend, this person needs help!

He or she is so emotionally bruised, they don’t know what to do. He or she thinks that by just continually talking about the subject, they are healing themselves.

That is simply not true!

Until this person can forgive, he or she can never walk in the freedom God created for him or her.

Do this with/for your friend:

  • Be honest with him or her. Don’t allow the person to walk in deception anymore. Even if the honesty will cause a breach in your relationship with the person.
  • Be honest with yourself. Has the PAST pain from the person become toxic in your life?
  • Help the person find some help. You will be doing a very valuable service for this precious soul.

The mission of The Drill Sergeant of Life is to help YOU get over self, get out of self’s way, let go of the PAST, and get what YOU want out of life! We hope this post has been beneficial to you today. If it resonates with you, please feel free to share.

Until next time! Be abundantly blessed! #GodIsFaithful

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

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Let Go of the PAST – Matthew 11:28

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Letting go of the PAST –  those People, Places, Possibilities And Situations (that should be) Terminated – has everything to do with Matthew 11:28 – 30.

28 Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.

29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.

30 For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.

In scripture, we are instructed to cast all, ALL, our cares upon Him (God through Jesus Christ) because He cares for us. Can you believe today that the Lord cares enough for you to take all your burdens upon Himself?

Can you believe He wants to take the hurt, the disappointment, the discouragement, the pain of your PAST from you so you can move forward into the incredible future He has for you?

If you could lay one burden on the Lord today, what would it be? Would it be the disappointment of a divorce? The discouragement of losing a job? The pain of words spoken over you years ago but you still carry with you?

Do this today:

1. Write down one thing, yes, only one (for now) you are willing to release to the Lord today. Pray, ask. God will give you the guidance you need. Keep this list because you will be adding to it frequently in your quest to let go of the PAST.

2. Write a “Dear John” letter to this thing. Write down everything you have held in your heart, the length of time you have held it, and what it has kept you from doing as you attempted to move forward.

3. Seal in an envelope addressed to “The Lover of My Soul.” Keep it in a safe place until a much later date. (Contact me at email hidden; JavaScript is required to find out your next step on this letter.)

3. Now, write a “Hello, I’m Free!” letter to yourself. Write down what the release of this thing will do for you. How will you feel? What will you be able to do now that this one burden has lifted? How much relief will you feel? Also, write an affirmation that you will not return to that thing once you have released it to “The Lover Of My Soul.” Place this letter in a place where you can access it daily until you have internalized the newness of letting that one thing go.

4. Celebrate you: you released this one thing! I celebrate with you!

You can let go of the PAST! It is doable.

Believe!

Trust!

Have Faith in God and in yourself that you can let go!

Drop me a note at email hidden; JavaScript is required to share or comment on this post. I look forward to hearing about your achievement in letting go of just one thing. Just this one action will propel you forward as never before! If this post has resonated with you in any way, please share it with someone else who might need the same wise counsel.

Until next time… Be abundantly blessed! God Is Faithful!

Beatrice Bruno, The Drill Sergeant of Life

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