Grief Counseling with the Drill Sergeant of Life

Grief: Deep sorrow, especially that caused by someone's death. 

Grief is a process. It is something that will take time to maneuver through. Grief is not something someone gets over after a set period of time. Grief is something that must be understood by the bearer and partnered with so that the victim can be able to walk it for the set time to the end of the path...if there is an end to the path.

The Drill Sergeant of Life is here to help you maneuver the Grief Path. I have learned since my husband's untimely demise that grief is not something I can control. Oftentimes, over the past 15 months, grief has taken control of me. It pays a visit during the most unexpected times and stays until it has satisfied its time of visitation.

Grief can be accumulative. I discovered 5 months after my husband's passing that I was still grieving for my granddad who had passed in 1973...46 years before! I was still trying to understand what had happened with him.

Now, I know that I must grieve; everyone must grieve when they have something to grieve about. It's not necessarily a physical death of a person. It can also be the death of...

  • A relationship...
  • A phase of life...
  • A career path...

Grief can go on for years if a person does not take active steps to bring it under subjection to themselves. I am now learning to deal with the grief through practical ways...and I would like to come alongside with you to help you do the same.

My goals for you are to:

  1. Help you see grief as an ally, not an enemy.
  2. Help you give yourself permission to grieve.
  3. Help you move forward in the way God desires you move forward during this time.
  4. Give you guidance on dealing with people who just don't understand what YOU are facing in YOUR grief.

Why am I so passionate about grief?

When I was 13 years old and my granddad passed, I was devastated! When I asked my grandmother why he wasn't coming out of the hospital, she told me, "Yore daddy (that's who I though he was) is dead. You will get over it." Get over it? Daddy was my heartthrob! He was everything to me! And I was supposed to get over it. Back in 1973 in South Carolina, there was no such thing as grief counseling. You just did like everyone else...get over it. Well, I didn't...

46 years later, after a year of deaths one and two per month from January 27, 2018, my world came crashing down on me on August 7, 2018. My husband. And dealing with the grief in the way I had not dealt with it before, by just working and going on, I crashed! Hard.

I don't want you to have to go through that! I want to help you by helping you see how to maneuver through this morass of challenges in this season of your life. I am here to help you. Will you receive that?